the million dollar question everyone wants to know... - Color Me Meg

the million dollar question everyone wants to know…

i did the c-section thing, then i had a homebirth and a VBAC…
so, really, all anyone wants to know and the one common question i’ve been asked is:

would i do it again?

in truth: not sure.

i totally understand the question. from the objective view, one took 5 minutes, the other 36 hours. one was in a hospital with a doctor, one was at home with no meds and a midwife.

there are obviously a lot of reasons it had to be this way this time around for me and it was successful for all those reasons. i didn’t have a c-section, which was my ultimate reason. and being that at 2 weeks postpartum, i was feeling almost like a human already and moving great, and not on meds, i am going to say the recovery is 17 times easier than surgery. yes, because i tore, it means i was trading stitches for stitches, and while i won’t try to say which are worse, (stitches just suck), these have healed lots faster and hurt far less. i couldn’t work out or jump even 7 or 8 weeks after my surgery, but this is such different story…

then there is the bit about actually being at home. cc took 7 days (never enough) and i got to keep him here for all of them! before, he had only 2 work days at home cause the rest were in the hospital… this way, we jumped right in, had family here to help, ate normal food, wore real clothes, and shared a bed.

those first few days i really needed help to get around cause i was recovering from the dehydration and energy drain… i was dizzy and lightheadedlots… among the soreness and pains. the soreness this time of course felt like i had done 7 days worth of p90x in one day, and after not eating or drinking… everything was sore… yet today, i can hardly remember that pain. today, i just think about how personal and intimate and even spiritual that experience was, and while scary at the end, it was a huge bonding experience for my husband and i, and my aunt and i.

then there is the issue with my lack of energy: part of me wonders if i were at a hospital if an iv would be easier to put in, if the placenta could have been removed in a less painful, more sanitary way…? who knows, maybe it would have been very similar in the end…

the good news: i did it. i had a baby vaginally. that means, i can go to a hospital next time if i want, i can have an iv once i realize i’m not eating, and perhaps still deliver naturally if i wanted to, but have the energy/fluids i need. more good news: it can’t be as long or hard as this one was– i know i can do it.

excuse the metaphor… but a few days after the birth, i was thinking about the end of the 3rd Harry Potter. how Harry saw his own patronus and knew he could conjure it, cause he did it before. he couldn’t even remember doing it. when i get there again, facing childbirth i mean, i think i could do it again naturally, cause i know i already did it once.  and while i loved so much about being at home and being able to labor in my own “comforts”, we’ll see if we do that again… maybe for cc’s emotional health we would go to a hospital…

lets just be glad i don’t have to think about any of that for a while anyway…
we’ll deal with that when we get there.

boston’s birthstory // c-section
reese’s birthstory // extreme homebirth


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I am Meg, a photographer and designer and a wish-i-owned-a-house-er. My husband and I are self-declared foodies and LOVE projects. We blog about food and DIY adventures from sunny San Diego with our two cutie kids and have an apparel line at colormeapparel.com to keep us busy. Email me at [email protected] to work with me!

6 comments on the million dollar question everyone wants to know…

  1. Lisa
    August 19, 2013 at 5:11 pm (5 years ago)

    Great post. Really shows both sides. This stuff is so much on my mind right now as I prepare to have my second. I'm hoping to do it naturally, but just found out I tested positive for strep b, which means I'll be strapped to an iv. I was hoping to labor at home for as long as possible like I did with the first (labored to an 8), but we'll see…

  2. Heather Campbell
    August 19, 2013 at 5:29 pm (5 years ago)

    I had a very similar experience, though I didn't have a midwife, and both of my children were born in hospitals. My recovery from a VBAC was nearly instantaneous compared to my recovery from a C-section. I was standing the same day, I could breathe, I could sing, I could even go on short walks just hours after the VBAC. Compare to after a C-section, where I took a short walk about 3 weeks

  3. Amy
    August 19, 2013 at 6:04 pm (5 years ago)

    I love your comparison of a home-birth to conjuring a patronus. 🙂

  4. Nik and Dawna
    August 20, 2013 at 3:25 am (5 years ago)

    You are QUITE the Superwoman!!! I look up to you for that…for being brave enough to do a VBAC at home with no meds or anything. Yes, it was a scary story but an awesome accomplishment.<br />My favorite line in this post, that made me actually laugh out loud, was &quot;maybe for cc&#39;s emotional health we would go to a hospital…&quot; hahaha…poor guy. These men have no idea what it is like

  5. Laura Jones
    August 20, 2013 at 5:48 am (5 years ago)

    It makes me laugh when I hear &quot;would you do it again?&quot; as if someone could just rewind and try it again a different way, or that someone would even want to because it IS a spiritual experience and each baby is a miracle, no matter how that baby gets here. LOVED LOVED LOVED your &quot;we&#39;ll deal with it when we get there&quot; comment — that is so how it should be! After 8

  6. Laura Jones
    August 20, 2013 at 6:01 am (5 years ago)

    PS. I LOVE Chris&#39; face in the pic above! That is one proud, happy, and relieved husband and father. That picture is absolutely priceless!